For too long, sexuality has been something people leave at home, hidden behind closed doors, restrained by unspoken rules and societal expectations. Furthermore, too many people have been suffering from sexual malpractice by their partners, or outright abuse, sexual deprivation, depression and loneliness, as well as feelings of shame and guilt. That must change. We are, at our core, sexual beings—not just in private, but in every aspect of life, including church and society. With healthy, normal boundaries, we should not have to suppress or hide this essential part of ourselves. Instead of keeping sexuality in the dark, let’s bring it into the open, fostering connection rather than loneliness, fulfillment rather than frustration, and joy rather than depression.

This also means embracing sexuality’s so-called “dark” or “wild” side. Suppressing it only allows it to fester in the shadows, where it may lead to harm. Instead, by acknowledging and integrating it, we can consciously and ethically explore our desires in a way that is constructive rather than destructive. This does not mean everything must be soft, sweet, or sanitized—polarization and contrast make life, and sexuality, rich, authentic and meaningful.

At the same time, sexuality benefits from being brought into the light of Christianity. As beings created in the image of God, our sexuality is not something to be denied or repressed but something to be understood, honored, and transformed. Every aspect of human sexuality—even its most challenging elements—can find meaning and redemption when engaged with in a Christian framework. Working with sexuality, rather than against it, allows it to be a blessing rather than a curse. It is not the work of the devil but a part of God’s creation, meant to be lived with joy, wisdom and integrity. Repression is not the answer; illumination and transformation are.